One reason I have not blogged for so long is that I started a psychology degree in 2014. I have always been interested in psychology but never really considered it as a career. A lot of friends and family think that my interest comes from my experience of autism with my daughter but that is only part of it.
I have always been interested in why people do the things that they do and also mental disorders. How does the brain work, what happens when things go wrong? I have a broad interest and found myself reading books and googling psychological topics so I thought I might as well do a degree, right?
I did not go to university after college. It was not the right thing for me at the time and I do not regret that decision. I had a successful career in the travel industry and did not need a degree (and student debt) to achieve it. Now is the perfect time for me to continue education and I am loving it. I can apply life experience to my studies and I am working towards a clear(ish) goal.
I am now half way through my degree, literally wishing summer was over so I can start studying again. I have already chosen the PhD and university that I want to move onto afterwards and I am so excited! However the graduation gown is not very pretty 😦 lol
I decided to try to manage the two textures of my hair as it grew. I knew it would be difficult but damn! I found it really hard. I already did braid outs etc. with one texture but with two, I just felt like it didn’t work. I lasted about 10 months and then I cut off the relaxed ends. That was September 2015.
I then played around with crotchet braids. It took too many days out of my life – I am soooo impatient. My hair was so big, I spent days looking for Harry Potter and dabbling in wizardry – yes it took days for me to realise that I am but a mere muggle
After a couple of months of braids I played around with twist outs. There were a few times they looked good but other times…. My “go to” tends to be two canerows.
I am still working out the best hair regime and products. At the moment I use a dark and lovely kids moisturiser and olive oil rich moisturiser. I use castor and coconut oil on occasion and recently bought shea butter. I generally do not stick to any one product as it just depends on how I am styling my hair.
My hair has grown a lot in the 18 months since I last relaxed, but my hair has always grown quickly as long as it is moisturised and regularly trimmed. I cannot wait for it to reach the length that I am used to. I really like my new texture, although I still like straight hair. I have pressed my hair a couple of times but it is too much work – cannot be bothered (as revealed in one of those facial expressions above)!!
So it has been two years since I blogged about my hair. At that time I made a dumb mistake with my relaxer and was seriously annoyed with myself. I have relaxed my hair myself since I was a teenager. I am not keen on hairdressers and generally do everything to my hair myself. However, with relaxing I need to be in the right mood and having children around when you are using harsh chemicals is not ideal. I found myself rushing my relaxers just to get them done and I was not taking the care that I normally do. My hair was still healthy and manageable but I had different textures in places, which was annoying.
After the last rush relaxer I did in October 2014, I ended up ill because I did it late at night and stupidly slept on semi-damp hair! I decided not to do it anymore. I was fed up of waiting for a time that hubby was at home and no one would interrupt me and fed up of not being able to itch my scalp for a few days before. I hate rushing things and not doing them properly so no more relaxers!!
Today is autism awareness day. A few years ago I knew a little bit about autism but like most things, you don’t become fully aware until it affects you or someone you love. I now feel like an expert and my daughter teaches me new things everyday.
People with autism are not all the same, they are not all Rainman. It is a spectrum disorder. Below are just some challenges that people with autism experience:
There are many things innate to the majority that a person with autism has to learn, such as social cues. These are things that we take for granted. I would not have been aware of this had my daughter not had autism. Watching her struggle is hard but as her advocate I hope I can raise some awareness so that when she is older there are more people that understand her and are willing to accept her and others with autism.